69 Position Guide

How to Make 69 Actually Feel Incredible for Both of You

69 is one of the most intimate and exciting positions — but most couples rush it or do it awkwardly. Done right, it can be one of the most pleasurable and connective experiences you share.

Here are 7 upgraded variations of 69 that make it more comfortable, more pleasurable, and way more intense for both partners.

1. Classic 69 (Her on Top)

The most common version. She lies on top of him, facing his feet, while he lies on his back.

Pro Tips: Use pillows under his head for better access. She can control the depth and rhythm. Communicate constantly — what feels good for one might not for the other.

2. Side-by-Side 69

Both partners lie on their sides facing opposite directions. This is often the most comfortable and sustainable version.

Why it works: No weight on either person, easy to maintain for longer, and incredibly intimate. Perfect for slow, sensual sessions.

3. 69 with Her on Bottom

He lies on top while she’s on her back. This gives him more control and is great for deeper oral.

Best for: Couples who want a more dominant feel or when she prefers less pressure on her body.

4. Standing 69 (Advanced)

He stands while she wraps her legs around his neck, upside down. Extremely athletic and intense.

Warning: Only try this if both partners are strong and comfortable. Use a wall for support.

5. 69 on the Edge of the Bed

She lies on her back with her head at the edge while he stands and leans over her.

Why it’s great: More stable than standing 69, excellent access, and very comfortable for longer sessions.

6. The “Lazy” 69

Both lie on their sides in a relaxed, almost cuddling position. Perfect for slow, sensual mutual pleasure.

Best for: Morning sex, long sessions, or when you want intimacy over intensity.

7. 69 with Toys

Add a vibrator or finger stimulation while giving oral. This can lead to incredibly intense blended orgasms.

Pro move: Use a small vibrator on her clit while he focuses on her entrance, or vice versa.

Final Tips for Mind-Blowing 69

• Communication is everything. Tell each other what feels good in real time.
• Don’t rush. Take your time and enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
• Use your hands. Touch, grab, and explore while your mouth is busy.
• Breathing matters. Don’t hold your breath — stay relaxed and breathe through your nose.

“The best 69 isn’t about who cums first — it’s about how connected and turned on you both feel together.”

— Rachel Foster

Frequently Asked Questions

Is 69 better for men or women?

It depends on the couple. Some women love the control and direct clitoral access, while many men enjoy the visual and the feeling of being pleasured at the same time. The best way to know is to try it and talk about what feels good.

How do I make 69 more comfortable?

Use pillows! Place one under his head and another under her hips. Side-by-side 69 is also much more comfortable for longer sessions than the classic version.

What if one of us is much taller or shorter?

Side-by-side or edge-of-the-bed versions work best when there’s a big height difference. You can also try it on a couch or with one person kneeling.

Can we use toys during 69?

Absolutely. A small vibrator on her clit or a finger inside while giving oral can make 69 way more intense. Just make sure the toy isn’t too big or distracting.

How do I breathe during 69?

Breathe through your nose and stay relaxed. If you’re on the bottom, tilt your head slightly to the side when you need a break. Communication is key — tap or gently move if you need air.

Source: This guide is based on feedback from thousands of couples who regularly practice and enjoy 69.